When a relationship ends it is never a good time in the lives of either party. Whatever the reason for the split it will always be painful and all sorts of unpleasant emotions can be brought up. However it is not all bad, even in the middle of a difficult breakup or messy divorce there can be positives. Often people will learn from their mistakes and grow as individuals as a result.
In order to know how to cope with a breakup you must understand why breakups hurt so much. The ending of a relationship represents the loss, the loss of shared dreams for the future and memories of the past. The excitement felt when a new relationship begins is replaced by the disappointment, sadness and sometimes grief when the relationship ends. Coping with a breakup can be a very testing time.
A breakup pushes people out of their comfort zone. If a long lasting relationship comes to an end the routine, security and in some cases the identity of that person completely changes and this make cause worry and anxiety.
Uncertainty about the future is often the most common cause of the anxiety when dealing with separation. Will you be able to cope alone? Will you get your ex back? Will you find someone else?
Here are a few tips for coping with the end of a relationship: allow yourself to grieve the end of the relationship. Just remember that grieving starts the healing process and essential in order to move on with your life – it won’t last forever, you will feel better.
Take advantage of the support network around you. I’m sure that everyone has at least one person to turn to in times of trouble – make use of that support. If you know someone who has survived a messy breakup themselves talk to them and tap into their experiences, this will be of great comfort when you feel at your lowest.
When coping with a breakup often people forget to look after themselves. Give yourself plenty of rest and if possible minimise the amount of external stress. Avoid using alcohol to deal with your emotions. It can seem like a release at the time but long term it is never the answer. Neither is turning to food or drugs.
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